Thursday, July 14, 2011

Bugger Perfect!

'The essence of being human is that one does not seek perfection' - George Orwell

Yeah right!  I've been running a series of Conscious Styling seminars lately and have been blown away by the negative and horrific attitudes from relatively intelligent people at the prospect of having me help them in their own private wardrobe space.  Oh no!  I need to clean it out first!  It's just such a mess.  I could not possibly have you in there until I sort it first!

So, what are we waiting for?  A perfect moment when there is no-one home?  A perfectly organised and pristine wardrobe?

 Sam Leader in her www.flyingsolo.com.au blog states that the following negative ways of thinking are frequently observed in unhappy people, according to cognitive psychologists. Do any of these sound familiar?
   
1. I need other people to like me and approve of me.

2. It doesn't matter how hard you try, if luck is against you, you won't succeed.

3. If I have to make a choice, it is important to be sure I make the best choice.

4. It is important to do all things competently. 

Well, thanks Sam!  I hear you and can relate to what you are saying here.  What is it with women in particular that they think they need to have a perfect body, a perfect wardrobe of professional and smart casual outfits and a perfect space in which to store them all?  What on earth is wrong with making a start, drawing a line in the sand and making a fresh start.  Can we just make that ok for now.  How about working on 5 great pieces in your wardrobe to serve you well in your career and setting you up for a plan to build on that in the next 12 months?

That way, we can have 'good enough' for now, not PERFECT but good enough.  It's all about stepping up a notch.  Anyone can do that.

And here's a real awakening.  I'm not that interested in the state of your wardrobe or what has happened in the past.  I'm making a stand for you to move forward, not backwards.  So don't be concerned about what I'm thinking. 

Final Word:  What other people think of you is none of your business.   Stepping up your professional presence has everthing to do with YOU and your confidence levels.  I reckon you deserve better than being perfect.  Just have a crack at something!


Now, for the perfect man .........  Oh blugger, I'll be waiting forever!